Party Loot Is Very One Sided Per Session

Gaming with my wife, as usual. In poe1, it was not so 1 sided. So far in poe2 loot seems very very loaded to 1 player for an entire session.

If one of us drops and reconnects, they get all 90% of the loot initially.

I know we can still pick it up after a time, but wow is it outta whack. Last session most of the loot was initially mine (currencies and rares)

This session she has gotten 9 exalts to my 1 HAHAHAHAHA. Sometimes 2 will drop, both for her.

Ive always wished Party play in POE had a smarter loot system. Never understood what drives loot decisions in this game.