How do I make friends?

Greetings,

I played M59, Everquest, Starcraft and D3 for years and made tons of friends and almost never I was not able to find a friend to play with.

I am now playing POE since close to two years, and I made only a couple friends. I am in a guild but people do not play together. Public parties are kind of bleh because most players into those are newcomers and they "vanish to never come back" after quite a short time.

So, do you have POE friends? How did you meet them?

Thank you

- Join an active and friendly guild.

I cannot stress enough how important this is if you want to regularly play with other people in PoE. Most of the huge "We have XXX people" guilds are active, but not close knit and friendly, this really makes a difference.

- Join public parties and leave a good impression.

My friendlist has been filling up one by one over the past few years with people who want to party up with me in the future, or give them some detailed insights into how I construct my builds. If you enjoy a party, because it was chill or people were nice, just toss them a friend request at the end and be like "Gotta go, but hmu if you guys want to play again, i'll be around!". Most people will say yes, and you lose nothing if they don't respond.

- Compliment people on their hideouts or builds when you do a trade.

Honestly, people are so surprised when I drop them a little compliment because i'm impressed with their design skills, be it artistic or mathematical. Sometimes it turns into a full on discussion with friend requests exchanged in the end, more people are willing to chat than you would think!

- Just be a generally good human being

Tip your crafting service guy, take off mtx if someone is lagging in the party, give some insight to the poor new player that joined your public party and is wondering why he is dying to everything in a T1 map. Small gestures earn you a lot of respect even if it isn't spoken.

There's always a way to find good people when you are a good person yourself!

OP, what is M59?
And didn't you thought you changed within those years?
You know, Everquest is an old-school MMORPG, so you're not so yong as in 200X.
myself i have 4 friends IRL - 2 cats, chinchilla and big black spider in terrarium. don't need more, for sure :)

Greetings,

Thank you for your answers. And yes, I am not so young. I am at my second IRL career.

M59 is Meridian 59. It was the first online 3d (kinda) RPG game with strong emphasis on PvP. A few servers are still running. M59 demises was 3DO mismanagement and Ultima Online coming out. Funny fact: Someone working at GGG was an active (and still is) M59 player.

I have plenty of friends IRL and animals too (2 cats, 2 dogs, 3 goats, 40 chickens. And believe it or not, the chickens follow me everywhere in the backyard. ti is funny like hell to see them behind me when I mow the lawn.).

As I said, I never had any issue to make friends in games. I have not been playing D3 for more than 2 years and half now, and I just logged into battle.net now and saw 7 friends...err...traitors...playing D3.

My guild is not very friendly except 2-3 players. There is a core of 3-4 players that are ..hmmm... on the side of having a personality of a cardboard box if I may say so. And it makes for a nasty atmosphere when they play.
Anyway, I will apply your advices and see how it turns out.

Thank you

i'd say that "friends" in PoE is rather generic.
Better look on forums or specialized Discords or whatever social things.
i'm from Russia and i'm old-school gamer, but russian community in chats are just a disaster. Really.
thou i don't look for friends in this game i have some friendly people(i think) on forum in some threads(build threads mostly).

my suggestion is to make your own guild\chat with just people you like and you liked by :)
sorry for my bad english :)

this game fits the solo player better imo.

friends keep whispering you every shitty drop they get and then when they die they subtly ask for a tabula or whatever else ;)

idk about softcore but in hardcore life is better solo. honestly.


i love my guild and the people in it (on wow) but i don't see any incentive for it in this game, only downsides.

apparently having a big guild slows down load times where theres a chest also.

*can always be friendly with the global 1 people and take that as a big guild :)

no big guild needed but couple of people you can sit on friday's evening and talk\drink about the whole life blah blah blah
not GAME FRIENDS. FRIENDS IN GAME. different things afaik.

Just write, whenever you find someone new to you, ask them questions. It's that easy.

Just create a party with name that describes your needs while you are playing, like "looking for players in x server to do red maps rotations fast" or "looking for casual players to chat and share maps" for example.
I do not like to play in a party cuz of easy lags and all the racing/chasing which isnt fun to me. I guess thats why i have just a few to chat or ask for help sometimes. Not sure if same thing applies to many players, but imo if unique maps and master missions rotations were efficient in party, the party itself wouldve be really useless outside acts for most of the players.

In open beta, I remember PMing some random guy in global, he was looking for a party or something. He invited me to his ventrilo server, and we talked and ever since then we've been buddies. Now we are on Discord.

I do miss Ventrilo, so nostalgic :O